Posted in blended family

Wise Words Wednesday: Forgiveness — Not the Average Mama

This is a wonderful blog to follow. I just had to share this post she made today because it’s so incredibly true, especially if you are or ever have been in the world of step parenting. Thank you for your words of inspiration and encouragement!

 

Wise Words Wednesday is dedicated to profound quotes and sayings I have come across that I want to share with all of you. There are times where I’m going through my reader and find some interesting and wise quotes. Those quotes sometimes help me through a tough day by making me stop and think or […]

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Posted in mabon, pagan

September 22nd-Mabon

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I wrote about the upcoming Pagan holiday, Mabon, a while back. I was getting so excited for the fall season that I couldn’t help myself! Now the time has finally come and Mabon is upon us! September 22nd is the date it falls upon, and although it’s more symbolic than anything, I feel like this balance between light and dark really allows those of us living in this hemisphere on Earth to embrace “death” and the coming fall and winter months.

I’m so excited, nostalgic and dreamy during this time of year! I always knew there was something more to these feelings and attachments I’ve had since I was young about seasons, smells, “rituals”, traditions, etc. and I’m so glad I finally discovered what that was. Paganism, as a broad term, has really opened up my world and answered so many unanswered questions that felt unfulfilled for a long time

As I’ve said before, balance is huge in my world. Being a Libra, that really goes without saying. I think I’m extremely connected to this particular holiday because there are equal parts of daylight and night, things are still growing, but they are also being harvested, and Earth just seems to be teetering in a happy middle that allows me to feel very grounded. I try to remind myself everyday of this and I like to think all this alignment and balance is the reason things have seemed to fall into place in my life very nicely, right around this time of year. I have literally zero bad energy connected to fall. It’s a beautiful thing and it’s so enlightening to feel the spiritual energy!

Just for a little bit of background once again:

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I tend to take a lot of things that come with Paganism more figuratively than literally. If I had my own crops and harvest, I’m sure I could celebrate both ways, but since I don’t at this time in my life, I like to think that now is the time to “reap” the benefits of the positive efforts I have “sown” all year to better my life. I truly believe, again, that if you wish for abundance, you will receive it. I have wished long and hard for it and I have reminded myself to look for it wherever I go, and I can see a difference! That fills me with joy in so many ways.

Let me know if there are any neat rituals, recipes, altars, etc. that you have used in the past! I’d absolutely LOVE people to make their voices heard and help me learn and grow spiritually. Please don’t hesitate to comment.

I will leave you with a cute Susan Branch recipe for Autumn Spiced Cider ❤

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I can only imagine how wonderful this makes your house smell!
Posted in life

Work Hard, Love Hard.

I want to spend a little bit of time talking about the craziness of life. My life, that is.

Now, as I have made very clear, I lead a basically “ordinary” life and I’m your typical “everyday” girl (to an extent). With that being said, I think this topic is right up my alley.

The topic? Working mom. Dun dun dun…

These are my #firstworldproblems. 😉

 

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I do a lot.

I’m not one to constantly toot my own horn, but I think it’s silly to be overly modest about how much I actually do as a wife, mom, stepmom, woman, person. I’m not looking for pats on the back or even any real acknowledgement at all, I’m just stating: I do stuff, man.

I moved out of my parents’ house when I was 18 and have been working ever since. I worked as a student for 7 years (and still only ended up with an Associates degree) and have worked several jobs, a few having sculpted my career path into what its become today.

With that being said, my current roles in life are (and not in any particular order, because they’re all important as hell): mom, wife, business woman. Bottom line? I’m a working mom, and being a working mom is tough! I’m not complaining. I’m actually very proud of myself and where I stand today. I feel like I’ve worked my ass off to get here. I have struggled to climb the career ladder for so many years. I just landed a brand new job, doubling my yearly income (hallelujah!) and I’ve done this all while being a mom to two kids. As ordinary and mundane as that sounds, it’s an accomplishment to me. My current job was a huge step in the right direction as far as advancement, but the new one is like a giant leap. I’m more than thrilled to have landed it.

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Working full time with two kids is hard on several different levels. I already don’t see Charlotte through the week because she goes to school where her mom lives, and I don’t see Willa until evenings. Those evenings are spent the majority of the hours she is awake, just the two of us. Derek leaves as soon as I get home except on Friday. She goes to bed around 8, but before she does, I’m playing with her, taking care of her, cooking dinner, feeding her, doing various things around the house, etc. I have both kids on the weekend, and in one of my previous posts I talked a little bit about how my weekends feel very “go, go, go” the entire time. They are fun, but they fly by, then I’m back at my desk again, wishing for the weekend and beating myself up about having not had the time to clean the bathroom (or I just didn’t want to because I did the grocery shopping, did the laundry, made and cleaned up countless meals and snacks, changed 500 diapers, AND made sure the kids were happy). These are the struggles and battles I have in my mind all the time. Yes, I need to continue working to better my family’s life, but yes, it does suck not seeing them as often as I’d like, and yes, it also does suck literally have zero free time for just me, or just Derek and me.

Derek and I have really made it a point lately to make sure we don’t lose ourselves in the midst of our everyday lives. Yeah, we’re parents and we have jobs, but we are also individuals with interests and passions and needs. Derek and I hardly understand what it feels like to have any free time. After the kid(s) go to bed every night is the only time we have for just he and I, and that’s only like 2 hours and then we’re ready for bed ourselves. It’s not easy to whisk off on a Saturday to have a date night, because we’d have to get a babysitter. It wouldn’t matter what day of the week it was, there’d always be the need to ask someone else to help us out. There is at least one kid in our house 24/7. That gets tough, but that’s parenthood.

The point in all this, to be perfectly honest, is to vent a little bit. To get all these feelings off my chest and hope that someone, anyone, reads it and can relate. I love support and I especially love support from other women.

Please comment, chat with me, share, anything! I’d love to talk to other ladies who totally get it.

 

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Posted in fall

Dusty’s Favorite Fall Movies

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I’ve been getting more and more excited for fall with each day that passes. I live in southern Ohio, so the heat right now is still raging, but that doesn’t change the fact that IT’S SEPTEMBER. I purchased my first pumpkin spice latte from Starbucks last week (I don’t care if that makes me “basic”, hahaha) and I’ve been going crazy on Pinterest trying to find fun fall crafts that are cute and affordable. The other thing that’s been on my mind lately are all the great fall movies that I love to watch during this season. Most of them are super corny and get bad ratings on Rotten Tomatoes (which is make or break with Derek), but I will forever love them to pieces.

Here are my top favorites (I have lots of scary favorites as well, but all of these are “family friendly” choices):

“The Good Witch” Movie Series

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There are seriously 7 of these movies and I love every one of them. Catherine Bell plays ‘Cassie Nightingale’, and in each one, all the characters get into all kinds of mischief. I don’t know what it is about Hallmark movies, but they have a tendency to suck you in, and this movie series has succeeded (at least for me)!

Here are all them:

  • The Good Witch (2008)
  • The Good Witch’s Garden (2009)
  • The Good Witch’s Gift (2010)
  • The Good Witch’s Family (2011)
  • The Good Witch’s Charm (2012)
  • The Good Witch’s Destiny (2013)
  • The Good Witch’s Wonder (2014)

Give them a whirl if you have the chance. I think they’ve even made it into a T.V. series due to its popularity!

 

“Halloweentown” Movie Series

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I remember the first time I watched the first “Halloweentown” movie when I was a kid and loved it. The first one will always be my favorite, but they are all very cute and now I really just enjoy watching them with Charlotte. I showed her the first movie last fall season and she loved it! They are great little family movies that are fun to make a tradition for each year.

Here are all of them:

  • Halloweentown (1998)

  • Halloweentown II: Kalabar’s Revenge (2001)

  • Halloweentown High (2004)

  • Return To Halloweentown (2006)

 

“Hocus Pocus”

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I think pretty much everyone agrees with this one. It’s timeless and always so much fun to watch each fall season. I’m sure everyone knows the leading ladies in this favorite are Bette Middler, Sarah Jessica Parker, and Kathy Nijimy as the three witches. This is another one that Charlotte loves and I love watching with her. *AND!* They’re making a sequel, which will definitely be exciting to go see!

 

“Practical Magic”

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This one is my all time favorite fall movie. Honestly, I could watch this movie any day out of the year. I have such a strong attachment to it for some reason, and I don’t even really know why. It’s just one of those special movies that has found a place in my heart. I love the setting, the feel, the music, the house, everything. I love Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman as well. They are both two of my favorite actresses. I seriously want to be both ‘Sally’ (Bullock) and ‘Gilly’  (Kidman). It’s hard to explain, but I love the characters’ personalities so much. There is so much charm in the movie and I’ll always love it so very much.

 

I hope you liked my list! I know it wasn’t very long, but it’s fun to share these with you!

And before you leave, check out my favorite quote ever from “Practical Magic”.

Happy (almost) Fall!

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I have this framed and hanging in my kitchen. ❤

 

 

 

 

Posted in happiness

All There Is — Ramblings of the Claury

Love really is the most important thing to me.

Whether it be love from Derek, my kids, or my family, I know as long as I have that, I’ll be okay.

 

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Posted in happiness

Witchy Tip of the Day ~ The White Witch Parlour — The White Witch Parlour

Had to share. I love the White Witch Parlour and Jenna Caprice so much! ❤

Witchy Tip of the Day: Just breathe & pay attention to the lessons of nature. Nature Inspired Products Available Here

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Posted in snails

Snails…

Okay, I just have to take a minute and blog about one of the most random things ever…SNAILS. (Hahaha!)

So last night Derek and I were doing our own thing and I suddenly get a picture message from him of a snail. It was the cutest thing I’ve ever laid eyes on and now I’m completely obsessed! He doesn’t know what he’s done…

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I mean, c’mon. Could this be any more adorable?

So basically I now, A.) want a pet snail and B.) want to collect snail things. Move over owls, the snails are moving in! (I have an owl themed kitchen for those of you who didn’t know.)

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This is the kind of pet snail I want…AND I WILL GET IT. It’s an “African Giant Snail”. Freaking cutest thing ever.

To be serious for a second, there really is some neat snail art out there. That can hardly be said with a straight face, but really! Take a look!

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This is so awesome! A snail moon? Seriously? I want this in my house somewhere.

 

I think it’s all so beautiful (and quirky), which is the coolest!

 

So yeah, snails are my thang now. Yeehaw!

Posted in loss

I Just Miss You

When someone close to you dies, you’re left feeling so empty for a really long time. At least that’s how I felt when my dad died a little over 5 years ago. I remember the day it happened like it was yesterday, and I wish I didn’t. If he had to go, I wish the last image of him I had wasn’t lying facedown on my Papaw’s back porch, post massive heart attack. He was already gone. 

I had been the first to find him. The day before had been a blast; a day full of laughter, family, games, swimming, rum drinking, singing. It was 4th of July weekend. That holiday, which was always such a happy time that I always looked forward to all my life because it meant we would pack up and visit my Papaw’s house in KY, is now shrouded in sadness.

Life just hasn’t been the same since that day. Here I am over 5 years later, and sometimes I’ll be driving and the thought of giving my dad a call will pop into my head. For that fleeting second, I actually feel excited, then within that same second, reality hits me. Of course I can’t call him…

Just a couple nights ago I heard the Beatles song “P.S., I Love You” and I had to turn it off because it immediately made me start crying. I have all these wonderful memories of my dad that I look back on with such happiness, but small things, like hearing that song, bring back a flood of those memories that, even though they’re happy, leave me feeling empty again.

As a girl who was very close with her dad, him being gone is a huge void that can never be filled. There will never be another man who will come close to loving me the way he did. Yes, Derek loves me as much as a husband can love his wife, but a dad’s love for his daughter is irreplaceable. Nobody has ever hugged me the same way he did, and it’s the little things like that that really hurt my bruised heart.

I see Derek with Charlotte and Willa and it makes me so happy knowing they have him. He’s such a sweet dad and loves them as much as my dad loved me. They’re lucky to have that and I hope and even pray (in some form or another), that he will never leave them too soon like my dad left us. He needs to be there for their wedding days and when their children are born. Not having my dad around for those things was heartbreaking for me. Knowing how much he would have loved these kids is equally as heartbreaking.

Missing my dad has just really been weighing heavily on me lately.

Sorry for such a somber post, but such is my everyday life.